Fashion is ageless, embracing you!

If there’s one thing I learnt on YLF it’s two subjects that grab people’s attention; fashion and age.
I decided I was going to write a post blending these two impressionable; but important subjects together and had done some research prior.

What is aging, and how does it influence fashion?
Like most of us, the thought of aging generally is a negative one. We all like to reminisce about our carefree, youthful days where we spent time with friends, having adventures, wearing what we want, with not a care in the World.
As Women, growing older has usually meant we have accustomed putting more effort into looking our best, and trying to look as youthful as possible. It used to feel like we’ve always had to hide behind makeup and fancy clothing to be accepted, and perhaps felt less like ourselves and more of what society expects of us. It’s no surprise magazines and models in the past have for the most part been portrayed as young, youthful, sexy, looking women. But this expectation had made aging women feel less than beautiful and as such either felt like we had to dress to impress, or gave up and started wearing frumpy style clothing not caring anymore. Until recently that has all but changed!

The new motto is that fashion is ageless, and like fine wine you must embrace the aging process as it progresses and accept it.
Models over 50 and as old as 90 now proudly show off their beautiful bodies and fashion styles, gray hair and wrinkles alike if they choose to. No longer must middle aged or older women shy away from skinny jeans, shorts, yoga pants, crop tops, graphic tees, or anything that in the past would be considered taboo for that age group to wear but the younger generation. It’s a time for fashion equality and no more body shaming.

As such, the young generation has equally flipped its styles to match. Dying your hair gray or silver in your teens or 20’s has become trendy, wearing trendy looking suspenders has come back in style as well.
In my 30’s I may not be as aged as many veteran members here, but often I feel a big difference since my teens. I’m positive that someone born in the 40’s might dress or style differently than someone born in the 80’s, it’s how we were brought up and what trends we followed. I understand how talking about aging has become less than popular, even taboo feeling as it shows the generation gap.
However this is why I felt like the subject should be brought up and not avoided, and like the new motto in a new era to embrace who we are no matter our age or style. Both old and young generations can teach one another something with fashion and self esteem and YLF is a great place to find that balance.

To wrap this up, remember you are only as old as you feel. Beauty is skin deep and age is only a number, if you feel ugly on the outside that reflection will rub off on how others see you. Wear what makes you happy, be bold and embrace your inner style through your wardrobe, don’t hold back or care what others will think the only happiness that matters is yours.
Make sure to always show off the best version of yourself, how you want to look; and always shine the beauty you have inside.

Have a wonderful evening loves,
Jess ❤️

Ps- some older, inspirational models shown below :)

This post is also published in the youlookfab forum. You can read and reply to it in either place. All replies will appear in both places.


  • Joy replied 1 year ago

    Thank you for bringing this up. Yes, age demands acceptance and brings up new challenges for style constantly. i am often amazed at how older women hide the fact that they are wearing Depends. I do not wear them yet but possibly will if I live long enough. I know many women with torn tendons at the shoulder or upper arm who cannot lift their arms above their waist to wash and style their hair or apply makeup, let alone get dressed. There is thinning hair, more skin sensitivity, and more. These challenges come along ready or not.

  • taylor replied 1 year ago

    Jess,  Thank you !  I agree whole heartily.  

    Joy and I are of the older group here I think...and I certainly feel that age is just a number.  :)
    Aging comes with its own issues and it’s own advantages.  If I could go back in time ,  it would be to my 30’s when I felt my best and I feel ,  looked my best and was energized by my young children.  With that said ,  I am happy to be well and have made it this far!
    Enjoy your 30’s Jess .  Try and make good decisions and  they will be a great time for reflection as you age .

  • Tina replied 1 year ago

    Thanks for sharing this, Jess! I am heading into my 49th year next month and this puts a positive perspective on things. I appreciate the effort you’ve made here, I hope it will be an encouragement to those who read it. I believe there are many, myself included, who read regularly but do not reply often.

  • rachylou replied 1 year ago

    Agreed and a lovely sentiment.

    Also: That’s a salient point about grey hair being the new ‘vivid colour’. I’d love to do that and my co-worker is going to. Sadly, my hair is black and I’m afraid to try and take it to white, which is what I’d need to do first.

    Also: Ironically, I suffer from accelerated decrepitude. I actually got my first white hair at aged 13. I can only wait for more. I don’t know how that will pan out: my dad got in a big fight with my grand uncle, when my dad was in his late 50s/early 60s over whether he dyed his hair! Lolol! ;)

  • DonnaF replied 1 year ago


    I would feel a lot more comfortable if you wrote with *I* statements rather than projecting your beliefs/opinions onto me. I feel that much or most of what you wrote does not apply to me.

    When I was young (20s, 30s), I wanted to look older so I would be taken *seriously*. And when I was in my mid-forties and worried for a brief time about wrinkles, I developed an autoimmune disease wherein my body produces too much collagen. Sure, not much in the way of wrinkles, but the downside is death. Which would you prefer? Puts it all into perspective.

    I've never been considered beautiful or thought of myself that way, so perhaps because of that I haven't had to deal with fading looks. Not much to fade. I will admit, however, that my graying eyelashes take me aback. Of COURSE, they gray like everything else! Duh!

    I will admit to coloring my hair for 13 lo-o-ong years. For my daughter who is 40.5 years younger than I. She, like most of her peers, equated gray hair with being really old and it would embarrass her if I were mistaken for her grandmother. The month before she graduated from high school was the last time I dyed my hair.

    I don't want to be younger. I don't care to look younger. Heck, I enjoy it when folks on public transportation stand up to give me a seat! They certainly didn't do so in my last month of pregnancy. Being older is freeing, as I care less about what others think. The biggest downside is the (bad) health stuff, including fussier feet.

  • Echo replied 1 year ago

    I am sure I am just jaded, but this is just... odd. Why are you so concerned about age, and why do you feel the need to give a rallying speech to women older than yourself? You seem really consumed by the idea that many women here are older than you: why? I don't consider this "pep talk" to be any better than the blog posts telling women over 40 what they can and cannot wear. Indeed, I feel it is disingenuous and forced, and almost offensive.

  • Jess replied 1 year ago

    @Echo It’s a fact most women here ARE older than me, (I’m in my early 30’s) by being on here for a while I found that out. I don’t recall seeing you post much?

    I don’t see how this is offensive but think what you want you don’t have to like the blogs, this isn’t a blog post telling women what to wear, actually I feel anyone should wear what they want regardless of age. It used to be age defined what what was acceptable to wear but times are changing and so is that rule.

    Here’s a few articles that inspired me to write this, you should read them!

  • rachylou replied 1 year ago

    So Jess, why is age on your mind?

  • silver replied 1 year ago

    Jess, imagine for a moment a couple who have been married for 25 years receiving unsolicited marriage advice from a couple who've been married for a week, or a year. It would go over like a lead balloon. 

    One of the perks of getting older is a *natural* letting go of concerns over past societal expectations -- fashion-related and otherwise -- at least that has been my experience and is one that many who are over 40 and beyond experience as well. Our elders may have told us this new way of thinking was coming as we age, but we cannot fully realize it until we experience it personally. I would never dream of telling an 80-year old how to approach her time of life, because I do not embody that experience yet, though I do hope to be so fortunate some day.  I hope this makes sense. 

  • Jess replied 1 year ago


    I know it doesn’t apply to all, but I know for a fact many of you follow Angies advice and she is younger than many of you, so why Is my advice any different, it isnt. Please think about that. I’m talking about fashion advice only.

    I don’t see the reflection here of all older women letting go caring how they look, or they wouldn’t ask how an outfit looks if they had that confidence of not caring what others think. So as far as fashion advice no I don’t think age matters giving advice and someone younger can give advice to someone older.
    Isn’t it better to get a second opinion (or point of view) from others as they may pick up on something you don’t notice, and could be helpful.
    With fashion that is important, and sure you shouldn’t care to ‘keep up with the joneses’, but if you have your own style be prepared for stares and questions from others, being different and standing out makes surrounding people uneasy for some strange reason? This is more a confidence thing though or if you feel secure with how you look, everyones different.

    As a matter of fact I rarely care how I look, I wear what I like even if it’s not in style. Sometimes I ask for feedback, but it’s not necessary for me to live by it. I’d rather be happy with being me than pretend to dress like someone I am not.

  • Keyle replied 4 months ago

    I am new to this forum and I consider myself older now. I recently retired. I was a college professor and always enjoyed dressing professionally for work. Eileen Fisher was my go to brand for decades. At this point, I think the quality of their clothing has declined and is overpriced for what you get.
    After I stopped working, I started buying Talbots, thinking it was more casual and less expensive. It took me a while to figure out that wearing clohting from that manufacturer was too conservative for me and made me feel frumpy! I recently bought some items by Lafayette and Theory. No, I do not need them for work but I need them for self-esteem. I think it is important for women of any age to wear what is attractive and empowering. Now I just have to get out of my house once this pandemic ends!

  • rachylou replied 4 months ago

    Welcome Keyle! I was surfing Pinterest and there’s a designer that comes up in my feed frequently now, maybe Simone Rocha, who I noticed has a wide array of models. I found it quite refreshing. Nice to see how things look on all sorts of people and thus how they might look on one’s self. This designer’s designs are pretty quirky and it was especially nice to see someone older wearing something interesting. It quite got my attention! I’m firmly in the older category now myself and I’m really quite bad at being staid. I would love to be except that I don’t love it! Lol :)

  • always trying replied 4 months ago

    When I do see women over 50 as models they still look much younger.  Seems when you are older you have to have a lot of cosmetic surgery, tucks everywhere and look years younger. 
    I see a lot (well before masks) with the too tight pulled a permanent smile--very popular look among my peer group.  And long hair, pony tails, or loose.

  • rachylou replied 4 months ago

    Always, models aside, do you think that has anything to do with your locale? Or the ‘tribe’ of people you’re seeing? I know that look - the tight face and ponytail. I saw a rather lot of it when I lived near the polo club. And when I used to see a master stylist... anyways her daughter told me about having your surgery plan in your 30s for your whole life, if not before, and how it NEEDED to look FREAKISH to SHOW work had been done.

    ... huh. I suppose it’s like my hair. It takes so long to lift my natural black, that’s why I always want appalling colour: I feel a need to really see something for that effort...

  • Gaby Meyers replied 4 months ago

    I'm in my 70's and take inspiration from all ages. I believe one makes style choices based on interest, comfort level and income. Other factors include availability, where you live, lifestyle, etc.,etc.
    I love fashion and regularly look at what's new at my favorite brands.
    I came upon this site a few years ago and noticed the wide range of followers from all over the world. I've learned about new brands and have been able to ask fashion questions. To me this site has been about sharing fashion ideas and getting advice in a kind, safe,and supportive manor. 
    I rarely see models that look over 60 or with gray hair unless it's a high-end fashion show which I personally can't relate to. However, we're now seeing heavier set models on some ready-to-wear brands so maybe older models with gray hair will follow in the future, you never know.
    That being said I really enjoy reading all your ideas and comments. Thank You! 

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